Self unawareness?

This story is about a sort of denunciation of Aziz Ansari for being sexually aggressive on a date. The unawareness is that it talks about the story in reaction to stories talking about how the story isn’t a good example of sexual assault and/or anything, and further that exposing this crossed a line of privacy that isn’t appropriate for a non-assault. I’ll be explicit: the argument being made is that cases like this which devolve into arguments about whether this is or isn’t appropriate to talk about, appropriate to bring out in public, may have some benefit in drawing the line about what actually is sexual assault and what is something ‘private’ that should be talked about in public without violating privacy … but only if you recognize that’s what’s happening. There’s no sign of that at all: it’s a piece about why this story should be talked about, why it is assault of some kind, as opposed to a recognition that, yeah, this is pretty obviously either on the line or right next to it. That’s a deep form of self unawareness in which you don’t recognize what you’re talking about because you’re so busy talking about it as though you know what you’re talking about.